It all started around my eightieth birthday. Instead of gifts, I asked my family and friends to donate to Mary Potter Hospice. At first, they thought it was a bit unusual, but also a thoughtful and meaningful way to celebrate. For me, it just made sense. I have everything I need, and it felt like a good way to give back.
You see, I’ve had my own brush with cancer. Thankfully, I’m now in remission, but I know how tough the journey can be, not just for the person diagnosed but for their loved ones too. I’ve also seen firsthand the incredible work that organisations like Mary Potter Hospice and the Cancer Society do to support individuals and families through some of life’s most difficult moments. They are there when people need them the most, offering care, comfort, and dignity.
Cancer has touched my life in other ways, too. I lost my mother to it twenty-five years ago, and over the years, I’ve had several close friends who have needed palliative care. When you witness the kindness, expertise, and compassion of hospice staff, you realise just how essential these services are. Their work is vital, and I’m more than happy to support it however I can.
So, when my eighty-fifth birthday rolled around, I kept the tradition going. Instead of presents, I encouraged my loved ones to make a donation to the Hospice once again. I like to joke that I’ve already got all the socks, underwear, and reading glasses I could possibly need! Instead, I’d rather see donations go toward something that truly makes a difference. Plus, it makes things easier for everyone—no need to stress about finding the perfect gift when you can give something that helps others.
I’ve had a full and fortunate life. I was born in Dunedin, and my career in warehouse management took me to different parts of the world. These days, I’m enjoying life in sunny Whitby with my partner, surrounded by my large and wonderful family, which includes 14 grandchildren! I feel lucky to have most of them nearby here in New Zealand—it makes birthdays and special occasions even more meaningful.
One thing I’ve come to appreciate as I’ve grown older is the importance of community and support. Services like Mary Potter Hospice are invaluable, not just for those in need but for the families and friends who walk alongside them. In a way, I see the Hospice as a kind of insurance—none of us know what the future holds, but it’s reassuring to know they are there.
If you can, I encourage you to consider supporting them. Their work relies on the generosity of people like us, and every little bit helps. Whether it’s a donation in place of a birthday gift or simply spreading the word about what they do, we can all play a part in ensuring they continue their amazing work. After all, kindness and care are the greatest gifts we can give each other.